The seventh commandment is: Thou shalt not commit adultery. Adultery is defined in both testaments as the sexual union between a married woman and a man other than her husband: the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband. (Rom 7:2) The law against adultery does not fundamentally prohibit a married man being united with an unmarried woman occasionally. But this is not fair to the unmarried woman, to use her without marrying her.
A husband has a duty to satisfy his wife, as in a sense his body belongs to his wife: the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife (1 Cor 7:4). When Jewish husbands neglected their wives to be with harlots instead, and when their neglected wives turned to adultery, God blamed the husbands more than the wives, saying: I will not punish . . . your spouses when they commit adultery: for themselves are separated with whores. (Hosea 4:14) So we see that just as it is important for the wife to refrain from being with another man, so it is also important for the husband not to neglect his wife.
The reason for the command against adultery is that sexual intercourse generates love, respect and dependence in the woman for the man. Adultery therefore diverts these affections of the woman away from her husband and toward another man, thus weakening the marriage bond.
Adultery is a serious sin: whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away. (Prov 6:32,33) And God also will judge it: For the ways of a man are before the eyes of the Lord, and he pondereth all his goings. (Prov 5:21)
The sexual union of a married man with another woman also generates affections, but as there is less dependence of the man upon the woman, than the woman upon the man, these additional affections do not interfere with his affections for his wife to the same degree. Therefore, under the moral Law of Moses, which in most respects is still relevant, polygamy is allowed. However second and third wives should each have only half the allowance of the first wife. For example the first wife might drive a BMW and the second a Ford. Alternatively the second and third wives could share a second BMW. But they should not share the first wife's possessions.
The law against adultery does not refer directly to sexual intercourse between the unmarried. Although the King James Version of the bible condemns what it translates as fornication, this is a bad translation. The word rendered ‘fornication’ should really be translated ‘sexual immorality’, as it is a general word referring to all types of sexual immorality. Therefore we must refer to the Law of Moses and the law of Christ to define what is classified as sexual immorality.
When a man and a woman come together to make love, they become: one flesh (1 Cor 6:16). This is, ideally, a permanent union. A survey of university students sleeping together found, to my best recollection, that 80% of the women hoped to marry the man, although less than 15% of the men hoped to marry the woman. The law to love your neighbour as yourself, teaches that a man should usually consider his lover's desire for marriage more important than his own desire for freedom. If a woman wants to marry a man because of her emotional vulnerability, her love, her desire to have his name and shelter under his wings, the man should marry his lover. A man should not worry that he may be able to receive more from another woman, because Jesus said: it is more blessed to give than to receive. (Acts 20:35) This is God's command. Moses said: if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. (Exod 22:16)
It is the sin of hatred, to discard a woman who has bound to you in love after sleeping with you. This means that whenever you sleep with an unmarried woman, there is a risk that you may have to marry her, even if before she sleeps with you she says she does not require you to marry her. There are also exploited women, who have been so exploited that they do not bind. You should also show compassion and marry these if you feel that you may be taking advantage of that exploitation.
But if they do not marry and the woman eventually woman marries another man, disclosure is required of the woman before marriage, as sleeping with other men before marriage may weaken the marriage bond, as the woman may lose respect for her husband. Her husband may not be so special. This is why a woman should treasure her virginity, and why it is good for a woman to refrain.
This is easier when women marry young. Paul, speaking of the minimum age of marriage says: if she pass the flower of her age . . . let them marry. (1 Cor 7:36) With plants, first there is the flower, and then there is the fruit. So the minimum age for marriage should be when the lady can bear fruit, that is, bear children. If the lady’s parents desire her to give her in marriage at such an age, and she also desires to marry, but the law of the land disallows it, perhaps they could travel to another country to get married.
But perhaps this advice to marry young applies more to those that are weak in goodness, rather than to those who are strong like Jewish women. Women with a strong intelligence and good understanding respect the heart more than the pleasure. The man they repect is the good man, the one who had compassion on them, and married them, more than the one who used them and discarded them, even if he was greater in flesh. If the woman is like this, the good man need not fret that she has lost her virginity.
But a woman should understand that a man who will not take a girl out unless she sleeps with him, does not value her sufficiently to make a marriage beautiful. If a second woman tempts him and sleeps with him, the first woman should not necessarily reject him. He should only be rejected if the second woman binds to him after making love, and the man does not marry her. You may not like what she does, but she is allowed to do it. But if she is a liar, you should try to rescue the man from her, by exposing her, not by sleeping with the man. A man should be rejected if exploits the second woman, but not if he receives pleasure from a second woman. Unmarried men cannot be expected, always to resist temptation, so it does not mean that he will not be a good husband to you.
Younger women, especially those who are still living with their parents, should remain virgins, rather than live a life of deceit. The law of Moses condemns any departure from such holiness, saying: she has done a disgraceful thing in Israel by being promiscuous while still in her father's house. (Deut 22:21 NIV) In the case described in this Scripture her guilt was compounded by her failure to disclose it to her husband before marriage.
Women should not be forced into prostitution. God says: Do not prostitute thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness. (Lev 19:29) A woman who becomes a prostitute: profanes herself. (Lev 21:9) No Christian woman, nor Muslim woman, nor Hindu woman, nor Buddhist woman should become a prostitute; better to be a tramp.
But for a Christian man to visit a prostitute is not a sexual sin, unless the prostitute is married, or forced into prostitution. Jesus said that a harlot has more hope of heaven than a Pharisee. Under the Law of Moses, a prostitute was not punished unless she was the daughter of a priest. God forbad temple prostitutes, that is, prostitution to earn money to give to God (Deut 23:17,18). But God did not totally forbid prostitution under the Law of Moses. The two women, between whom the wisdom of Solomon disputed the rightful mother of the baby, were prostitutes.
Although Paul condemns prostitution, he also says that celibacy is good (1 Cor 7:8), thereby contradicting the word God spoke before Eve was created: It is not good for the man to be alone. (Gen 2:18) Paul admitted that some of what he said was not the command of God, but his own judgement or supposition (1 Cor 7:25,26) The celibacy error teaches us that we should not be bound by what he says where it contradicts the Old Testament Scriptures. Paul, being celibate, is probably not a good judge of sexual relationships between men and women.
Paul's letters thus contain the word of God, and new revelation, but are not totally the word of God, as Jesus claimed the Old Testament to be (Luke 24:44). The apostolic letters, whilst claiming to have messages from God, do not claim to have no human opinion. Everyone makes mistakes in what they say, even an apostle, and the fact that it is written does not guarantee infallibility. Some of Paul's letters have been lost. These presumably were not Scripture.
So there is no reason to believe that a word in a letter is inspired, unless it is claimed to be inspired or it is obviously inspired. Paul never claims this when he condemns prostitution. The words translated, God forbid (KJV), should be translated, May it never be (NASB). As such they reflect Paul's personal opinion, and restrict the freedom given in the Law of Moses, given by God, and still relevant. You are not bound to marry a prostitute you have paid, if this is her choice.
However, when using prostitutes health precautions must be taken to avoid the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases to you and from you. Condoms confer good protection. Although not perfect because they slightly reduce the ability of the man and the woman to sense one another, they are not sinful unless they have features to impart sensations divorced from the direct interaction of the man and the woman.
But half women have an eternal future in the supernatural world. If a man sleeps with these women as a prostitute, perhaps he needs to be flogged for each one. Otherwise how can they face them in heaven, and even if he does not face them the knowledge that they are on a different planet is not good. Compassion would be to marry her. But a good woman would not choose to be a prostitute, unless she thought that she had little option.
Judah went to visit a prostitute, and his father, Jacob, describes him as one: whom thy brethren will praise. (Gen 49:8) It was Judah who offered himself to be a ransom for Benjamin. But we should take note of several features of his visit (Gen 38:12,16,17). First he gave her a kid, a considerrable food supply, enough for a week. Men should not see a prostitute who sleeps with more than one man a night. In practicality this might mean booking her company the night before for the whole of the next night.
Secondly it was only after his wife died. Married men should not visit prostitutes. Their money is for their wives. They may get disease. And the woman is not a purifying vessel like their wives. Solomon also condemns youths who spend money given to them by their parents for prostitution. (Prov 29:3)
A dominatrix should be cheaper than a prostitute, because she can see many men in a day. Unfortunately many such places engage in excessive, sick practices, unrelated to the sexual power of a woman. Therefore it is not good to visit such places. It would be better to hire a prostitute with a whip or cane for an hour, but not make love to her. Because the fantasy in the mind lasts for days after the visit, young lads should not do this as itt will cause them to think about sex too much.
Their goal should be to study diligently at school or university, so that they can later build a nice nest to win an attracive in heart, female bird. Solomon says to consider the ant which without overseer works now, so that later it will have enough. I went to a school, Knox, which did very well academically. At the final exam in Mathematics quite a few were in the top ten or so of the state. I heard that senior Knox students did three hours study a night, with time for participation at rugby and athletics, not just for the elite, but for even the slowest, who would usually have some event at which they could earn points for their house at standards of lows, highs and supers. But Shore which worked their students for much longer hours doing twice the study homework as us, did no better academically. Fatigue sets in, if not at school, then later at university, starting off with the law of diminishing returns, and eventually becoming counterproductive for many. Solomon says that it is not good to work too hard because God wants to give you the joy of rest if he loves you.
Because of mutual interdependence, mutual pleasure, and because when a man and a woman come together they each come into the presence of the emotions of the opposite sex, emotions which they do not possess in isolation, the union of sexual intercourse is an emotional one. A man and a woman complement one another. A man has strength and a woman has tenderness.
Only a sexual experience of mutual pleasure and mutual interdependence is intimate and emotional and can generate love. All other experiences such as oral sex, are effectively individual experiences and breed selfishness rather than love. An individual experience, although preferably not this one, should only be for a few moments for the purpose of attaining an erection prior to normal sexual intercourse.
An individual experience is imperfect because sexual pleasure is meant to be more than just a physical experience. Man was not meant to be an island to himself, satisfying only himself. To the contrary, we must relate to others sexually in the only complementary way allowed by the physical and emotional nature of man and woman, given on the day of creation of Adam and Eve. If pleasure is deficient, suggest tackling the same task from a different angle.
If a married man has an individual experience with himself, his wife should shut him out of the bedroom until she is able to cleanse him with her vagina, or until she is ready to let him share her bed again. (But dreams are no one’s fault.) Never in their life will a woman engage in an individual experiences, because they are sexually holy and pure. Without this the woman could not cleanse the man, and it would not be possible for sexual pleasure to unite man and woman in beautiful love.
If a man has an individual experience by himself with heterosexual fantasies, the experience is only half bad: the thought is good, but the experience is not. The man cannot come to the prayer meeting that night, because of defilement. But he can still come to church the next day. But young lads should not be punished for this, because this will cause them to do it without a picture of a woman in their eye. They will be cleansed when a man marries and sleeps with his wife.
The stronger the focus of thought upon a woman is, the more the defilement is mitigated when a man uses his hand. And the more honour the woman has in his thought, the less the defilement. Plesures flowing from the head of the penis are more defiling than pleasures from the shaft. And it is worse to use a machine than to use one's hands. Perhaps this is because a man refuses to take responsibility for his act of defilement, or perhaps it is because the focus is less upon a woman.
Also it should be stated that whilst an individual experience with one's hands is inferior to an act of love between a man and a woman, it is superior to an act of hatred between a man and a woman. It is an act of hatred for a man to get a woman drunk to sleep with her, or to lie about his marriage intentions to sleep with her. It is also an act of hatred to boast of conquests, or talk about women that you have been with, or treat them as cheap, reusable objects, which may be discarded after use, regardless of their feelings.
Aphrodisiacs are not wrong if the full gammut of human emotion is enriched. But viagra, which only gives an erection, is wrong, because the physical side of sex is enhanced independent of the emotional side. Not necessary are the woman's tempting words, her breasts and lust, or love.
Interdependence and emotional complementarity is not possible with homosexuality, which is two separate, selfish, individual experiences. But it is a more serious contamination than a man having an individual experience by himself, because the fantasy is wrong. Therefore homosexuality is to be condemned. Moses said: Thou shalt not lie with mankind as with womankind: it is abomination. (Lev 18:22) Unlike for an individual experience, bisexual men can not ever be cleansed sufficiently to sleep with women. So bisexual men will defile every woman they ever sleep with. This is, unless God does some sort of miracle. But overcomers to inherit the greater rewards, and those destined to be the rulers of the next worlds, do not trust in miracles. They rely on logic and evidence, goodness, and truth. For which cause they should be divorced, and the women remarry. Statistically this may mean up to ten per cent polygamy in some Western countries.
Even before Moses, in the time of Abraham, God destroyed the towns of Sodom and Gomorrah with a volcanic eruption, for practising homosexuality. That these cities were homosexual is shown by the words of the Sodomites regarding some visitors: Where are the men which came in to thee this night? bring them out unto us, that we may know them (carnally). (Gen 19:5) It is also shown in that Lot’s two married daughters were still virgins. Homosexuality is not as bad as beastiality. But these men were worse than just being homosexuals; they were married men practicing homosexuality. (whether or not it was true that Lot claimed that his two daughters were virgins)
The evil of homosexuality is also spelt out in the New Testament. Paul says that a cause of homosexuality is: that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful, but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened . . . Wherefore God gave them up to uncleanness, through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves. (Rom 1:21,24) Some of these vile affections are that: even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another, men with men working that which is unseemly. (Rom 1:26,27) This seems to apply to men who switch from being heterosexual to homosexual, not to men who start off wanting homosexuality.
But although the fact that some homosexuals cannot help it, limits the guilt of their actions; it does not mean that the practice is good. Although I think they are mostly stable, I think that those of them who try to do what is good in most ways, will be told something like, Not Guilty Due to Insanity, on the day of judgement.
Homosexuality is not as bad a sin as cruelty. Even Jesus warned the Pharisees of a worse judgement than Sodom. So I believe that the worst a full homosexual has to fear is simply death, and cessation, not punishment after death. As a prophet I know that the worst people are not the losers, and that most homosexual men think that life has been unkind to them. The worst people are always those that initially, often seem to have everything going for them. Although the converse is not true, that successful men are always wicked. The best people, like Job, often emerge from much trouble to be blessed. But this is not always the case. There is another logical reason for not villifying homosexuals and this is that there is another cause of sodomy. Due to the stress of bombing, which obviously caused hormonal changes in the womb during pregnancy, many times the normal number of homosexuals were born during WWII in Germany. This was not surely the fault of any German.
For this reason I think it only fair for many homosexuals to be given a second chance, and to have another natural birth and another life, without a homosexual handicap, and to be judged on this second life. I think that the messges of judgement for sodomy in the bible apply not to homosexual men who cannot help it but to bisexuals who can. But if possible homosexual men should refrain, instead seeing a gentle dominatrix woman, but not making love to her.
Could it be that when Paul refered to catamites or homosexual prostitutes (1 Cor 6:9) having no chance of heaven, he was condemning the practice of wicked or greedy men who prey on the vulnerability of homosexual men who cannot resist temptation. When Jesus said that those who offend go to hell, the meaning is not that those who can't help sinning go to hell. My interpretation is that the offense is being cruel to the weak and vulnerable, but I have also heard the interpretation that offense is to stumble another like this.
Perhaps even Paul was trying to protect those church attenders with weaknesses from those who would prey upon those weaknesses. And in Romans 1:31, 2:1 he says that those who have pleasure in the weaknesses of others are inexcusable. From the previous context these may be the same that who turn from hetrosexuality to homosexuality, and then try to stumble homosexuals that are trying to refrain. He goes on to say that he is sure that there is punishment for the stumblers, for their stumbling and all the other things that they do, because they started off having no need for sin or money. But they were greedy and lazy and selfish and went from bad to worse.